parents..

well...let me share with you about my thoughts on parents..

we can categorize parents into many different categories..but the most obvious categories are..

the first one..are the parents who provide their children with what they want physically..but in actual life, they provided nothing!!...both in spiritually and mentally...for these are the two most important parts in ones life that is required to live a healthy life style...

the second ones are the kinda parents who knows what and when to give their kids at the right time...they allow their children to do what they want but of course each sealed with limits..they provide their children with the things that they NEED...and NOT what they WANT!!...

the third ones are the type parents who does not want their kids to have a life. They control every single part of their kids life, right from what they wear to who they interact with...

what's the point of me writing this known facts....you may ask..
well...i went through a lot with both my parents...and i'm trying to find out the root cause for the parent child problem..

at first, like others, i was pointing finger at them... like..'YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT MY LIFE!!...YOU'RE WRONG!!..I'M RIGHT!!..and of course being a typical teenager i 'KNEW' what i was doing..i didn't needed anyone's help..
like they always say..'you wouldn't know about it until it hits you in the eye'....

well..it hit me...and i intend to solve it once and for all..!!

what are the differences between parents and their children??
if you ask me..i say there's is only one...and that is..

• parents have been through both children and parenting phase...unfortunately..children are merely children..they know nothing about parenting..

all a child wants to do is to enjoy...and all a parent wants to do..is stop them from enjoying..
agreed???...ah huh...that's where you're wrong...all a parent want is
for their children to be save and sound..!!
as a child..to my parents...i never understood that..and i DidN'T WANT TO!!

All i could think of...is that they are controlling my life..They don't want me to enjoy...so yeah..i end up making both our lives miserable...

Another problem that becomes a burden to most teenagers is when their parents..especially their mom ..nag and nag..non-stop.. there is even a possibility that the ears could bleed!!
yeah trust me..been in that place...since the day i was born!!

the biggest most enormous problem...is when one is asked to study!!...and they'll give a long lecture that...studying is the most important thing!!..bla bla bla....well..first of all...it's not the most important..thing..!!..ok let's not get into that debate mood .. i'm afraid it wouldn't end here..

n again...since there is only 1 difference..there should be one solution also right??..

well...it's simple..
i have not done any research on these stuffs...neither have i read about it..
speaking from experience...
all parents have to do...is TALK!!..yeah..talking as in..eye to eye...heart to heart!!..not SHOUT!!..
of course when one soul shouts..it stirs up the anger in the other soul..naturally human beings get's worked up and eventually explode..

why do you have to nag?...just say it once..nicely and lovingly..and trust me...it will work!!..explain to them..full of love and care..let the words of wisdom sink deep in their hearts..

if you want their room to be cleaned...why do you have to nag and shout??
if you want them to excel...say it to them..make sense..let them think!!..and they will know what are they suppose to do..

and all we children will do is listen...maybe question a little..but still just coz they were asked sooo sweetly by someone..they will do it..i know i will..

i came across this unfamiliar book in the bible..called sirach..chapter..3
i read it..and i knew what it was about..
what i didn't knew was...what on earth was wrong with me all these years??

a very good example
Jesus...LISTENED to his parents!!...a question appeared on my mind..
Jesus listened to HIS FATHER..and because of that...he was willing to fulfill HIS FATHER'S WILL by hanging on the cross..does that mean..HIS FATHER did not love him..??
there was a moment..where Jesus couldn't take it anymore.. andhe asked..'Father, father...why have you forsaken me??'...it wasn't written in Luke..but in Mark 15:34..it's written...

well..my dear friends...yes, indeed OUR FATHER loved JESUS soooo much...just as much as He loved us..his sons and daughters...that he was actually willing to give up His one and only son...
because of the love He had for US!!! US...SINNERS!!!...
so why did Jesus question His Father..that He has forsaken HIM..??..well it's because at that moment...God the Father himself..could not bear to look at HIS SON...!!
the pain was excruciating...even when one looks at it..imagine the pain Jesus went through..!!
imagine the pain he is bearing now..watching us live our lives..

anyway...TALK and LISTEN!!...to both children and parents..it's hard..but possible..=)

well..guess that's it for today....!!!
and yeah..we are human...we can't be perfect all the time..!!..
but still..it wouldn't hurt if we try...
take care..n god bless!!